Friday, March 8, 2013

NY Divorce Mediaiton Practice: Why is a prenuptial agreement necessary?

NY Divorce Mediaiton Practice: Why is a prenuptial agreement necessary?: A prenuptial agreement is in your best interest because it clearly states what you expect to happen in your marriage.  You and your partner ...

Why is a prenuptial agreement necessary?

A prenuptial agreement is in your best interest because it clearly states what you expect to happen in your marriage.  You and your partner are agreeing to communicate when both are in a phase of your relationship where you are amicable and reasonable with the terms you wish to live by.

When you have a prenuptial agreement you openly and honestly are willing to voice your wants, your needs and your expectations for your plans within your marriage.  A prenuptial may also state the money we earned before I met my partner is not going to be shared after we are no longer together.

The fact that you are having the conversation usually means you are not focusing on the money portion of the relationship or getting divorced.  Focus on the plan for your relationship, focus on your expections.    In many cases you do place a financial value on your time, your love and your overall satisfaction with the marriage.  Actually we place a financial value on our time everyday we go to work why wouldn't we have values in our personal relationships.  Everytime you leave your family we expect it to be worth our time.  Life does not have guarantees as part of the plan  we need to create the expections for ourselves.  We should also enter into marriage with a prenuptial agreement or a plan.

The fact remains that most people who discuss their expectations do not end up getting a divorce and least of all getting divorced for the money.  If you are getting a divorce and you have a prenuptial agreement the rules for your separation and divorce are already discussed and agreed upon.  You will not find yourselves in court fighting over things you did not discuss prior to marriage.

Sometimes relationships just fall apart.  If that happens you both will know the time you were together was about the love you shared and you already planned for all possibilities including the possible divorce,  but also children, family issues and if you remain married and hopefully you discussed what happens if one of you pass away.  These conversations do not pull people apart.  These conversations embrace intimacy and have a way of bonding couples together cause they now know the plan.  They laid out their plan, were once on the same page and will hopefully remain focused on the life plan ever after.